Extra fluffy because my eating has been all over the place this week with out of town guests but idgaf because I like my shoulders
I’m impressed by both the shoulders and the look of furious consternation you’re giving your phone.
A) well it makes you look hard-core and focused so go with it LOL B) reposting to correct the HORRIBLE typo I made initially.
Alright, so you just started lifting you’re new to the gym, you have a crippling fear of being ridiculed. In reality nobody gives a shit. No one’s even looking at you.
James “Flex” Lewis: lean beginnings, growth.
Aside from the fact that I think Lewis’ body looks way better in the very first pic (which is just my aesthetic preference) I’m noticing this thing with the current crop of bodybuilders where, the further they go (and therefore the more steroids they take) they start looking haggard as fuck. Hollow cheeks, sallow skin…not a healthy look at all. I first saw it in Ivan Kochetkov and Jaco De Bruyn, now I’m seeing it in Antoine Vaillant and Flex Lewis, among others.
Though I have no particular interest in them I don’t think steroids are the great Satan, but if they make you look so obviously wrung out then there’s probably a problem with, if nothing else, how you’re using them.
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I wonder how feminists will react to this
Probably ignore it then go back to making male tears mugs and gifs
Actually this is a very common idea among feminists
It’s something feminists have been talking about for years it’s called toxic masculinity and it’s one of the common threads among the topic of ‘Patriarchy hurts men too’. If fact the first time I read about toxic masculinity was on a feminist blog.
If you actually read things feminists talk about instead of straw manning them you might know this but OH WELL
THIS IS SO COMMON FOR FEMINISTS. My entire focus in my research is how the ideal of the good provider is mismatched with the reality of the economy as well as the effects of losing a job on masculine identity
ftr it’s actually not strawmanning if it’s something that happens.
I think the point the user above was trying to make is, it is (forgive the generalisation) females who mock men who display emotion and see them as weak and inferior. I don’t see how you can turn it around and say “the patriarchy” as if to imply it is males hurting other males. Which, it could be at times… but I put it to you that men care less about what other men think of them than they do about being rejected by the female gender en masse as too weak & emotional to be a suitable mate for not being the stereotypical “strong silent type”.
inb4 “no one owes you sex” straw man response. I am saying they might want to some day be a husband and father, not someone’s one night stand. Which again, no one owes them that. They have a right to feel that they’re not worthless, weak and unworthy of it though.
Though I think pointing the finger at a patriarchal power structure for the inability of men to express their feelings in a safe space is not a way of saying that it’s men who ridicule other men (although that certainly does happen) but rather a way of saying that whether men or women do it it’s a symptom of a societal norm created and perpetuated by that power structure, there are some interesting thoughts here to grapple with. The defining and policing of masculinity in a repressive way by both men and women has serious deleterious effects, not the least of which is the suicide rate that Thomas talks about in the above photo set, and the participation of women in that policing shouldn’t be ignored or glossed over, particularly because it is so impactful. I think actually second wave feminism — which is the feminism that I was raised with, and why I would call myself a second wave feminist — tended to have a better grasp of and approach to this issue. Aside from Naomi Wolf, I don’t find the approach of much of third wave feminism (especially US third wave feminism and especially radfem offshoots thereof) to be particularly constructive or realistic in these matters.
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